Yesterday, I tried to be sympathetic to someone’s life struggle.
HER: I haven’t eaten chocolate in a week and a half. It’s really hard.
ME: I bet.
HER: No, you don’t understand I eat a candy bar every day. I’ve eaten a candy bar every day for years.
ME: I wish I was able to eat a candy bar every day.
HER: No, you don’t understand…
Yes, I do understand. I understand your struggle. Sure, I can’t say what you say, I’ve-always-been-a-size-eight-and-now-my-pants-don’t-fit! Yet, I understand you are in your 40s and realizing you have to adjust your eating habits to fit your changing metabolism. Your middle section is getting fluffy. You can’t eat the way you used to. Well, welcome to the fat party! Some of us have been here for four decades or more. Your struggle isn’t unique but maybe… just maybe… you will use this experience to be more sensitive to good size people.
Tuesday night, I waited on a trio of Trixies (Lincoln Park gals…beautiful, thin, sporting huge, honking diamonds). They each ordered the halibut either sauce on the side or no sauce. The chef was upset that I would encourage someone against the intended presentation. I told him that I didn’t and wouldn’t encourage anyone from enjoying the meal as created by the chef. It’s just hard to stop the deprivation bandwagon once one person has boarded. Whether intended or not, the first gal to strip down her halibut order, influenced the other two. People, who talk about their diet, incessantly make others feel small and not in the cute, petite way. Especially a normal size gal lamenting to a good size gal about her lack of candy bars.
There is an article circulating on Facebook titled something like “Jennifer’s husband doesn’t like how she looks.” It has a picture of a fat girl and it’s sponsored by some slim-worthy miracle cure. If I sound vague, it’s because I try to skim past it as fast as I can. There is no way in hell that I’m reading it. I’m certain it’s about Jennifer losing weight to please her husband. VOMIT! If I thought the article might be about how Jennifer dumped her loser husband, I’d read it, like it and share it. Sometimes being a fathead has nothing to do with excess weight.
Strive for good health and true happiness at any size. And if you want to have a candy bar, have it.